Wouldn’t it be great if it only took one to tango? But it doesn’t. It takes two to tango. And two to save a marriage. The reality is that if one person isn’t willing to try, then that person isn’t invested in the marriage.
That said, there is an exception.
It you are the one causing the problems in your marriage, then you can save it alone (I assume since you found this article, you’re the one who is trying to save the marriage). Let me explain.
Say you’re married to a wonderful person who adores you, but you’re insecure and jealous. You can save your marriage by changing that behavior and getting to the root cause of your jealousy.
Or, if you’re married to a substance abuser, and you’re willing to accept you can’t change that behavior, you can respond by getting out your spouse’s way when he or she is high or drunk. Then, perhaps, you alone can save the marriage. This might be a good short terms solution; but is usually not satisfactory for the long-term.
When only one person is trying to save the marriage, you need to look at the behaviors which are causing the marital strife. If the behaviors are yours, and you are willing to work on them, then you have a chance at saving the marriage all by yourself.
But if your spouse is the one who needs to change, know that you cannot make that change happen. Only your spouse can change their behavior.