Men and women both express and receive love differently. When both parties expect that the other craves the same kind of affection as they do, personal expressions and expectations become problematic. In general, men value personal and professional accomplishments and want these accomplishments to be recognized. They desire support and admiration for their accomplishments.
Women, on the other hand, have a greater tendency to seek, from their mates, a feeling of being cherished and being appreciated in ways that make them feel special. Women, recent research is showing, want to be the first priority of their husbands; while men often want their wives to wait appreciatively in the wings while they engage in their professional and personal accomplishments.
Because men often link their self-worth, and their value in a partnership, to their ability to provide for their families, it has become increasingly difficult for many men to accept the new order of the American family and multi-faceted roles that women now play. Twenty-first-century mothers can do it all…but this appears to be hurting the institution of marriage.
Quite often, women wear multiple hats in family situations: nurturing mother, homemaker, and breadwinner. This leaves many men with feelings of inadequacy and, when these feelings are left to fester, marriages suffer.